Okay, where do I even begin with this. I feel this is one of the most dreaded decisions most parents make. Ideally, we will all live in biblical times where the man goes out and provide for the family. And like the proverbs 31 woman have servants and blah blah…
In my perspective, in the current economy its important to work and gain financial independence. In an ideal situation a mumpreneur is great! However if you’re like me, where your stuck and can’t find an idea that leads to an income to support your family… then back to work it is!
I had so much anticipation and contemplation about whether be a stay at home mum on a reduced income that will just about get us by or work to support my family financially… For me I felt I had to go back to work, its a tight enough budget with the both of us working (childcare is ridiculously expensive!) but its an even tighter budget if I don’t work. I am not sure if I would be happy being a stay at home mum on a tight budget. I strongly feel a happy mum is a happy home.
Some may say, well maybe you should’ve worked for many years and save enough so you can have time with your family… but life didn’t work out that way. Simple. So I make it work.
For me, I function better on a tight deadline, so knowing I have limited amount of time with my family forces me to make it count. Its not the quantity that counts but the quality of time we spend together that will create memories. I think?
One of my major worries is how well my 6months daughter, Isabelle, will cope in full-time nursery. I think I will most definitely be the one in tears and left with anxiety the first week or so of nursery. My stomach turns at the thought of leaving my children elsewhere from dark to dark everyday. Missing school trips and such activities breaks my heart.
Also I feel like I will be a human robot always on the go! After a long day at work, come home, prepare dinner, playtime, learning time, chores… ooh I am changing my mind about working this minute as I write!
However, without working, not wining a lottery or a kind old rich lady leaving me all her assets in her will means we will have to rely heavily on benefit. With the media making it seem as though everybody on the benefit system is there to exploit it… Cuts have been done and benefit system is sooooo very frustratingly difficult. Working for me is the only option.
I am due to start a new job very soon and will keep you posted on my thoughts of work after maternity leave!